How To Care Less: 7 Tips

I think too much. I sometimes think my head is going to explode (literally) because I seem to be thinking about a million things at a time. I think fellow over-thinkers can relate: the headaches our brain causes himself to have can be so annoying.

I have been trying to think and care less and even though I must say I have been doing better I still need lots of practice and time. I hope this article will help other over-thinkers: thinking is good, but too much of something good is never right. I hope this little list will help you!

1. Stop over-thinking
Easier said than done. In order to do this, make sure to realize when you're over-thinking: I found out that when I zone out a bit, when I don't realize what is going on around me I over-think. Whenever this happens I start talking to someone, to distract myself.

2. Don't think about something until the day's there
Whenever I'm really excited about or for something I start thinking about that particular thing a lot. An example: I have my driver's test in a few weeks and I think about this upcoming happening approximately 5 times a day. Try to do this less, this will give you a better, less stressed feeling: you won't be able to change anything about it anyway.

3. Be more confident
I used to be very, very insecure about the way I looked, talked and just about me in general. Even though I'm not the most confident in the girl still, I feel like I've grown a lot as a person. This has helped my generally high caring level as well. I'm better at making decisions and this causes me to think less. What I usually do when I want to feel more confident: I either put on nice clothes (it sounds silly, but knowing you look decent makes you feel better) or try to think in a positive way - about my future, for example. I try to picture it as a positive thing, rather than a negative thing.

4. Don't let your over-thinking be an obstacle for great opportunities
I am an introvert person and I like being on my own, however, pushing your boundaries every now and then is a very good thing as well. I could easily be inside for five days straight without being too worried about myself, however, I know this wouldn't be a very healthy situation so I try to keep things like that from happening. I used to say 'no' to everything and I tried to say 'yes' more. Doing this helps you create a better, less worried person of you. I'm not saying being an introvert is bad, however, I used to be so shy and insecure I was worrying about myself all day long, which I hated.

5. What others think of you is irrelevant
I try to put everybody I know in perspective: for example, I care a lot about what my family and very close friends think, I care less about what vague connections of mine think about me, and I stopped caring about what people I don't know think about me. I used to do this a lot in the past - I wouldn't go outside without makeup on, or without clothes on I had carefully put together - but I stopped doing this for the sake of my mental sanity. You don't have to be a completely careless person, though, but don't let the opinion of people you don't even know and probably will never see again get you down.

6. Don't pressure yourself
Deadlines and rules influence our lives a lot and I think this isn't necessarily a good thing, but it rules and deadlines simply have to be there. Don't set your personal goals too high though: if you feel like the stress is getting too much take some more time to relax.

7. Do what you want
I have tattoos and I love them - but not all my loved ones do. Some people very close to my hate my tattoos and this hurt my feelings in the beginning but once I realized I make every decision for myself, dealing with a thing like this was easier. Realizing that everything you do, you do for you, makes dealing with opinions of closed ones easier.

Thanks a lot for being here. I hope this little article helped you! Much love, Sjoukje.


  1. This article was definitely for me. I overthink stuff way too much. This helped me out a lot, thanks! :) I will try to say yes to more things, I could easily stay inside for days too. Great tips :D

  2. Bedankt voor dit artikel, ik herken mezelf er heel erg in. Doet deugd om af en toe een reminder als deze te lezen :)

  3. Thank you so much for this post! I tend to really over-think everything. I zoom out and get lost in my thoughts during lectures, I pre-live every upcoming experience I know about, I sometimes even prepare what I want to say. I think I really need to realize this more during the times it's happening and actively force myself to distract me. I'm pretty glad I have already left the phase of being too dependend on what others (especially strangers) might think behind me but unfortunately that hasn't kept me from over-thinking everything else.

  4. Lovely post and I always feels its great to relax! I find jogging or a bath helps unwind for the day, especially if it's been stressful x

  5. Lovely personal post here, i use to think this way but from your points I did this too and it helped, its all mental thinking changed positively - keep it up & good luck for your test!x

  6. Great tips!! Exactly what I need. Thanks for sharing. Xoxo

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  7. Inspiring, thanks for the post!

  8. Such a funny-worded post but an awesome self-improvement one none-the-less! It is so important to "stop caring" from time to time. It's what you hold value in that is important. Like you say, the opinion of others is irrelevant. I'm always trying to stay positive and confident!!

    Much Love!
    -Stephanie Eva

  9. I love this post, thank you for writing it!! I've been really trying to work on my confidence lately and trying to put aside other peoples' opinions for the sake of my happiness! It's really hard, but I'm slowly but surely making progress!

    Chrissy x

  10. nice tips to be happier!Great post! x