Whoosh - here I am again. My recent blogging schedule hasn't been a regular one and I apologize for that, but my head has been in the clouds and my body has been at IKEA - as I'm currently in the process of moving out of my parent's home. I'm extremely excited to share pictures of my new room, experiences and discoveries with you but that's something for later - for now I have a little list of things to remember when moving out (and things I actually forgot).
You'll have to do laundry
Yup. Throwing your dirty laundry in the hamper and waiting for it to magically re-appear in your closet won't work anymore.
Living on your own is expensive
Even if you share your flat with others, living on your own is damn expensive. You have to think about food, items like shampoo, detergent - and you still want to visit the cinema and buy something nice for yourself every now and then. And oh, did I mention you also need to pay rent?
Your new place probably won't live up to your expectations
Expectation: 'I'll move to Paris, rent a cute apartment next to the Eiffel Tower where I'll drink wine and eat croissants in my patio with my new Parisian amis every day' - Reality: Moves to Paris, realizes renting an apartment isn't an option because it's too expensive, finds a shared flat in a shady neighborhood and still can't afford a single croissant. Okay, even though this might be a bit exaggerated - your new place (probably) won't live up to all the expectations you have. You probably won't be able to afford the most beautiful and centrally located place to live - but remember that doesn't really matter, because..
And even though freedom is one very important basic human right, freedom comes with more negative sides as well, such as..
Your parents won't be there to make the decisions for you!
Even though I've always tried to be independent (my mother reads my blog and I'm sure she'll confirm this with a kind-of-annoyed but happy smirk on her face), getting immediate feedback on important life questions from your parents - who only want the best for you - is great. You're only a Skype call further away now, but still - there's a difference.
The fridge doesn't automatically refill
And that's a sad fact any fresh out-mover will realize is true - sooner or later.
You have to keep track of what you spend
No matter how supportive your parents are, how good your job pays or how rich you are - keeping track of what you spend on food and other expenses never is a bad thing, and it might just save you from a few hungry days at the end of the month.
There are many things you still need to buy
Even if you think you don't. Forgetting about basic things you share with family members is easy - think about scissors, nail clippers, makeup remover.. (all the things I forgot about).
It's going to be hard
If you're moving out and are on good terms with your parents, that's the perfect situation (a situation I'm lucky to find myself in), but even when that's the case, things are going to be different than you expected. It's going to be more expensive, more alone/isolated in the beginning and more intensive than predicted but that's fine, you'll adjust to the change.
Take as many things from your parents home as you can
You'll need it! And even though the items you can take with you might not be the items you would've gone for in a store, you'll be thankful for that extra money you can spend on better food later.
Don't see this list - which might sound a bit negative, I realize that - as a discouraging thing. Moving out is great: you'll learn so many new things, the constant struggle of who and what you are as a person gets easier as you discover yourself more and more, and the connection with your loved ones will be even better because the time you have together now is more valuable. All good things have a bad side as well, and even though moving out seems to have more negative sides than positive sides, I think more freedom, having a better connection with your loved ones and being more independent are more important than a mundane thing like 'you have to do laundry'. Good luck if you're moving out, and please let me know something about your experiences if you already have.